Ego Next Door Podcast

Understanding Attachment Styles in Relationships | Episode 20 (September 2024)

• Belsky, J. (2010). Developmental origins of attachment styles. Attachment & Human Development, 12(4), 347–359.

• Bonanno, G. A. (2004). Loss, trauma, and human resilience: Have we underestimated the human capacity to thrive after extremely aversive events? American Psychologist, 59(1), 20–28.

• Bowlby, J. (1969). Attachment and loss: Vol. 1. Attachment. Basic Books.

• Del Giudice, M. (2019). Sex differences in attachment styles. Current Opinion in Psychology, 25, 1–5.

• Davila, J., Burge, D., & Hammen, C. (1997). Why does attachment style change? Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 73(4), 826–838.

• Feeney, J. A., & Noller, P. (2007). Attachment style and romantic love: Relationship dissolution. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships.

• Finzi, R., Cohen, O., Sapir, Y., & Weizman, A. (2000). Attachment styles in maltreated children: A comparative study. Child Psychiatry and Human Development, 31(2), 113–127.

• Simpson, J. A. (1990). Influence of attachment styles on romantic relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 59(5), 971–980.

• Woodhouse, S., Ayers, S., & Field, A. P. (2015). The relationship between adult attachment style and post-traumatic stress symptoms: A meta-analysis. Journal of Anxiety Disorders, 35, 103–117.

The Untold Truth of Trauma Bonds and Stockholm Syndrome | Ep. 19 (August 2024)

• Bower, B. (1981). Consequences of captivity. Science News, March Issue.

• Chang, C. L. H. (2011). The dilemma of renqing in ISD processes: Interpretations from the perspectives of face, renqing, and guanxi of Chinese cultural society. Behaviour & Information Technology, 31(5), 481–493.

• Corrado, R. R., & Tompkins, E. (1989). A comparative model of the psychological effects on the victims of state and anti-state terrorism. International Journal of Law and Psychiatry, 12(4), 281–293.

• Hwang, K.-K. (2012). The construction of the face and favor model. In Foundations of Chinese psychology (pp. 39–56).

• Rahe, R. H., & Genender, E. (1983). Adaptation to and recovery from captivity stress. Military Medicine, 148(7), 577–585.

• Speckhard, A., Tarabrina, N., & Mufel, N. (2005). Stockholm effects and psychological responses to captivity in hostages held by suicidal terrorists. In Psychological Responses to the New Terrorism: A NATO-Russia Dialogue (pp. 139–155). IOS Press.

• Xu, Y., Jiao, L., Xu, R., Feng, Q., Wang, F., Jiang, J., & Chen, C. (2018). The process and characteristics of psychological kidnapping: An indigenous model of corruption in China. Journal of Pacific Rim Psychology, 12, e13.

Growing Up with a Narcissistic Sociopath Stepfather: A Personal Testimony | Ep. 18 (July 2024)

• Besser, A., & Priel, B. (2010). Grandiose narcissism versus vulnerable narcissism in threatening situations: Emotional reactions to achievement failure and interpersonal rejection. Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, 29(8).

• Johnson, S. A. (2019). Understanding the violent personality: Antisocial personality disorder, psychopathy, & sociopathy explored. Journal of Psychology and Psychotherapy, 7(2), 1-9.

• McCarthy, J. B. (1990). Abusive families and character formation. American Journal of Psychoanalysis, 50(2), 181-196.

• Simeon, D., Guralnik, O., Schmeidler, J., Sirof, B., & Knutelska, M. (2001). The role of childhood interpersonal trauma in depersonalization disorder. American Journal of Psychiatry, 158(7), 1027-1033.

• Schwardmann, P., & van der Weele, J. (2019). Deception and self-deception. Nature Human Behaviour, 3, 1055-1061.

• Ullrich, S., & Coid, J. (2010). Antisocial personality disorder—Stable and unstable subtypes. Journal of Personality Disorders, 24(2), 171-187.

• Wilkes, B. C. (2007). Brain fiction: Self-deception and the riddle of confabulation. Journal of Medical Speech-Language Pathology, 15(1).

Breaking Free from Manipulation and Overcoming Social Exclusion | Ep. 17 (June 2024)

• Antal, C. (2003). Forcible 'Deprogramming,' the Japanese State, and International Human Rights. Journal of Unification Studies, 5, 51-68.

• Dubrow-Eichel, S. K. (1990). Deprogramming: A case study. Part 1: Personal observations of the group process. Cultic Studies Journal, 7(2), 174-216.

• Galanti, G. (1993). Cult conversion, deprogramming, and the triune brain. Cultic Studies Journal, 10(1), 45-52.

• Lalich, J., & Tobias, M. (2006). Take back your life: Recovering from cults and abusive relationships. Bay Tree Publishing.

• Shengold, L. (1989). Soul murder: The effects of childhood abuse and deprivation. Yale University Press.

• Szimhart, J. (2003). Razor's edge indeed: A deprogrammer's view of harmful cult activity. In J. R. Lewis (Ed.), The Oxford Handbook of New Religious Movements (pp. 457-478). Oxford University Press.

• Ventegodt, S., Andersen, N. J., & Kandel, I. (2009). An ethical analysis of contemporary use of coercive persuasion ("brainwashing," "mind control") in psychiatry. Journal of Alternative Medicine Research, 1(2), 177-188.

Reclaiming Your Identity After Co-Dependency and Coercive Control | Ep. 16 (May 2024)

• Bacon, I., Conway, J. (2023) Co-dependency and Enmeshment — a Fusion of Concepts. Int J Ment Health Addiction 21, 3594–3603.

• Guillory, L. E., & Gruenfeld, D. H. (2010). Fake it till you make it: How acting powerful leads to feeling empowered. Manuscript in preparation.

• Irwin, H. I. (1995). Codependence, narcissism, and childhood trauma. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 51, 658–665.

• Jenkinson, Gillian (2016) Freeing the authentic self: phases of recovery and growth from an abusive cult experience. PhD thesis, University of Nottingham.

• Singer, M. T. (1978). Therapy with ex-cult members. Journal of the National Association of Private Psychiatric Hospitals, 9(4), 14–18.

• Stafford, L. L. (2001). Is Condependency a Meaningful Concept? Issues in Mental Health Nursing, 22(3), 273–286.

Healing from Narcissistic Abuse, Cult Trauma, and Survivors’ Shame | Ep. 15 (April 2024)

• Duron, J. F., Johnson, L., Hoge, G. L., & Postmus, J. L. (2021). Observing coercive control beyond intimate partner violence: Examining the perceptions of professionals about common tactics used in victimization. Psychology of Violence, 11(2), 144–154.

• In Nelson, P. T. (Ed) (2012). Self-esteem grows with realistic expectations in Families Matter! A Series for Parents of School- Age Youth. Newark, DE: Cooperative Extension, University of Delaware.

• Morgan, J.P., Jr. (1991), What is codependency? J. Clin. Psychol., 47: 720-729.

• Mosunic, Chris. (2023). The power of setting intentions & how to set mindful ones.

• Polivy, J. The false hope syndrome: unrealistic expectations of self-change. Int J Obes 25 (Suppl 1), S80–S84 (2001).

• Twentyman, C.T. and Plotkin, R.C. (1982), Unrealistic expectations of parents who maltreat their children: An educational deficit that pertains to child development†. J. Clin. Psychol., 38: 497-503.

• Wilson, J. P., Droždek, B., & Turkovic, S. (2006). Posttraumatic Shame And Guilt. Trauma, Violence & Abuse, 7(2), 122–141.

Navigating the Heartbreak of Being Left Behind: Discard Phase | Ep. 14 (April 2024)

• Campbell, W. K., & Foster, J. D. (2007). The narcissistic self: Background, an extended agency model, and ongoing controversies. In C. Sedikides & S. Spencer (Eds.), The self (pp. 115-138). Psychology Press.

• Gentile, B., Miller, J. D., Hoffman, B. J., Reidy, D. E., Zeichner, A., & Campbell, W. K. (2013). A test of two brief measures of grandiose narcissism: The narcissistic personality inventory-13 and the narcissistic personality inventory-16. Psychological Assessment, 25(4), 1120-1136.

• Levine, A., & Heller, R. (2010). Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find. Publisher.

• Pincus, A. L., & Lukowitsky, M. R. (2010). Pathological narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder. Annual Review of Clinical Psychology, 6, 421-446.

When Affection Turns Into Abuse and the Mask Falls: Devaluation Phase | Ep. 13 (March 2024)

• American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed.). Arlington, VA: American Psychiatric Publishing.

• Levine, A., & Heller, R. (2010). Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find. Publisher.

• Miller, J. D., & Campbell, W. K. (2008). Comparing clinical and social‐personality conceptualizations of narcissism. Journal of Personality, 76(3), 449-476.

• Raskin, R., & Hall, C. S. (1979). A narcissistic personality inventory. Psychological Reports, 45(2), 590.

Caught in the Illusion of Love with a Narcissist: Idealization Phase | Ep. 12 (March 2024)

• Campbell, W. K., Bonacci, A. M., Shelton, J., Exline, J. J., & Bushman, B. J. (2004). Psychological entitlement: Interpersonal consequences and validation of a self-report measure. Journal of Personality Assessment, 83(1), 29–45.

• Exline, J. J., Baumeister, R. F., Bushman, B. J., Campbell, W. K., & Finkel, E. J. (2004). Too proud to let go: Narcissistic entitlement as a barrier to forgiveness. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 87(6), 894–912.

• Greenberg, E. (2016). The narcissistic/borderline couple: New approaches to marital therapy (2nd ed.). Routledge.

• Greenberg, E. (2018). The narcissistic love script: The five stages of narcissistic relationship patterns. Rowman & Littlefield.

• Miller, J. D., & Campbell, W. K. (2008). Comparing clinical and social-personality conceptualizations of narcissism. Journal of Personality, 76(3), 449–476.

Uncovering the Narcissistic Love Script: Early Signs of Manipulation in the Grooming Phase | Ep. 11 (February 2024)

• Campbell, W. K., Foster, J. D., & Finkel, E. J. (2002). Does self-love lead to love for others? A story of narcissistic game playing. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 83(2), 340–354.

• Miller, J. D., & Campbell, W. K. (2008). Comparing clinical and social-personality conceptualizations of narcissism. Journal of Personality, 76(3), 449–476.

• Tangney, J. P., Stuewig, J., & Mashek, D. J. (2007). Moral emotions and moral behavior. Annual Review of Psychology, 58, 345–372.

When Love is Toxic: Recognizing and Escaping Normalized Abuse | Ep. 10 (February 2024)

• Bremner, J. D. (2006). Traumatic stress: effects on the brain. Dialogues in Clinical Neuroscience, 8(4), 445-461.

• Durvasula, R. (2015). Should I stay or should I go: Surviving a relationship with a narcissist. Post Hill Press.

• Rusbult, C. E. (1980). Commitment and satisfaction in romantic associations: A test of the investment model. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 16(2), 172-186.

• Sroufe, L. A. (2005). Attachment and development: A prospective, longitudinal study from birth to adulthood. Attachment & Human Development, 7(4), 349-367.

• Teicher, M. H., & Samson, J. A. (2016). Childhood maltreatment and psychopathology: A case for ecophenotypic variants as clinically and neurobiologically distinct subtypes. American Journal of Psychiatry, 173(6), 539-546.

• Van der Kolk, B. A., Roth, S., Pelcovitz, D., Sunday, S., & Spinazzola, J. (2005). Disorders of extreme stress: The empirical foundation of a complex adaptation to trauma. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 18(5), 389-399.

Healing from an Abusive Past, Navigating Adulthood and the Risks of Diagnosis | Ep. 9 (January 2024)

• Herman, J. L. (1992). Complex PTSD: A syndrome in survivors of prolonged and repeated trauma. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 5(3), 377-391.

• Janoff-Bulman, R. (2010). Shattered assumptions: Towards a new psychology of trauma. New York, NY: Free Press.

• Kinniburgh, K. J., Blaustein, M., Spinazzola, J., & Van der Kolk, B. A. (2005). Attachment, self-regulation, and competency: A comprehensive intervention framework for children with complex trauma. Psychiatric Annals, 35(5), 424-430.

• Miller, A. (1990). The drama of the gifted child: The search for the true self. New York, NY: Basic Books.

• Smith, R. A., & et al. (2019). The Wheel of Life Assessment: A Tool for Enhancing Well-being and Fulfillment.

• Van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The body keeps the score: Brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma. New York, NY: Viking.

Unmasking Narcissism: Origins, NPD Misdiagnosis, and Identifying Narcissistic Fleas | Ep. 8 (January 2024)

• American Psychological Association. (2010). Narcissistic personality disorder: Diagnostic and clinical challenges.

• Barry, C. T., Kauten, R. L., & Jorgensen, D. A. (2013). Adolescent self-compassion: Associations with narcissism, self-esteem, aggression, and internalizing symptoms in at-risk males. Personality and Individual Differences, 54(7), 840-845.

• Kernberg, O. F. (1984). Severe personality disorders: Psychotherapeutic strategies. New Haven, CT: Yale University Press.

• Malkin, C. (2015). Rethinking narcissism: The bad—and surprising good—about feeling special. New York, NY: Harper Perennial.

• Miller, J. B., & Stiver, I. P. (1997). The healing connection: How women form relationships in therapy and in life. Boston: Beacon Press.

Exposing Real-Life Stories of Manipulation and Emotional Abuse | Ep. 7 (December 2023)

• American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed.). Arlington, VA: American Psychiatric Publishing.

• Gladstone, G. L., Parker, G. B., Mitchell, P. B., Malhi, G. S., Wilhelm, K. A., & Austin, M. P. (2004). Implications of childhood trauma for depressed women: an analysis of pathways from childhood sexual abuse to deliberate self-harm and revictimization. American Journal of Psychiatry, 161(8), 1417-1425.

• Miller, J. B., & Stiver, I. P. (1997). The healing connection: How women form relationships in therapy and in life. Boston: Beacon Press.

• Wu, A. M., Tang, C. S., & Kwok, T. C. (2004). Self-esteem, narcissism, and stressful life events: Testing for selection and socialization. Journal of Personality, 72(3), 559-582.

Growing Up with a Narcissistic Sociopath Mother: A Personal Testimony | Ep. 6 (November 2023)

• Herman, J. L. (1992). Complex PTSD: A syndrome in survivors of prolonged and repeated trauma. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 5(3), 377-391.

• Johnson, S. A. (2019). Understanding the violent personality: Antisocial personality disorder, psychopathy, & sociopathy explored. Journal of Psychology and Psychotherapy, 7(2), 1-9.

• McCarthy, J. B. (1990). Abusive families and character formation. American Journal of Psychoanalysis, 50(2), 181-196.

• Sachs-Ericsson, N., Cromer, K., Hernandez, A., & Kendall-Tackett, K. (2009). A review of childhood abuse, health, and pain-related problems: The role of psychiatric disorders and current life stress. Journal of Trauma & Dissociation, 10(2), 170-188.

• Widom, C. S., Czaja, S. J., & Dutton, M. A. (2008). Childhood victimization and lifetime revictimization. Child Abuse & Neglect, 32(8), 785-796.

Early Childhood with a Narcissistic Psychopath Father: A Personal Testimony | Ep. 5 (November 2023)

• Gjerde, P. F., Block, J., & Block, J. H. (1988). Depressive symptoms and personality during late adolescence: Gender differences in the externalization-internalization of symptom expression. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 97(4), 475-486.

• Johnson, J. G., Cohen, P., Brown, J., Smailes, E. M., & Bernstein, D. P. (1999). Childhood maltreatment increases risk for personality disorders during early adulthood. Archives of General Psychiatry, 56(7), 600-606.

• Johnson, S. A. (2019). Understanding the violent personality: Antisocial personality disorder, psychopathy, & sociopathy explored. Journal of Psychology and Psychotherapy, 7(2), 1-9.

• McCarthy, J. B. (1990). Abusive families and character formation. American Journal of Psychoanalysis, 50(2), 181-196.

• Miller, J. D., Campbell, W. K., & Pilkonis, P. A. (2007). Narcissistic personality disorder: Relations with distress and functional impairment. Comprehensive Psychiatry, 48(2), 170-177.

• Ronningstam, E. (2016). Narcissistic personality disorder: Facing DSM-V. Psychiatric Annals, 46(9), 512-516.

How to Recognize Manipulation and Protect Yourself from Toxic Behaviors | Ep. 4 (October 2023)

• Besser, A., & Priel, B. (2010). Grandiose narcissism versus vulnerable narcissism in threatening situations: Emotional reactions to achievement failure and interpersonal rejection. Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, 29(8), 874-902.

• Burgo, J. (2015). The narcissist you know: Defending yourself against extreme narcissists in an all-about-me age. New York, NY: Touchstone.

• Miller, J. D., Campbell, W. K., & Pilkonis, P. A. (2007). Narcissistic personality disorder: Relations with distress and functional impairment. Comprehensive Psychiatry, 48(2), 170-177.

• Mirza, D. (2019). The covert passive-aggressive narcissist: Recognizing the traits and finding healing after hidden emotional and psychological abuse. Independently published.

• Pincus, A. L., Ansell, E. B., Pimentel, C. A., Cain, N. M., Wright, A. G., & Levy, K. N. (2009). Initial construction and validation of the Pathological Narcissism Inventory. Psychological Assessment, 21(3), 365-379.

• Ronningstam, E. (2005). Identifying and understanding the narcissistic personality. Oxford University Press.

• Twenge, J. M., & Campbell, W. K. (2009). The narcissism epidemic: Living in the age of entitlement. Free Press.

Decoding Manipulative Tactics and Empowering Yourself Against Emotional Abuse | Ep. 3 (October 2023)

• American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed.). Arlington, VA: American Psychiatric Publishing.

• Buss, D. M., & Shackelford, T. K. (1997). Susceptibility to infidelity in the first year of marriage. Journal of Research in Personality, 31(2), 193-221.

• Malkin, C. (2015). Rethinking narcissism: The bad—and surprising good—about feeling special. Harper Wave.

• McGregor, J., & McGregor, T. (2013). The empathy trap: Understanding antisocial personalities. London, England: Sheldon Press.

• Miller, J. D., & Lynam, D. R. (2016). Narcissism and callous-unemotional traits prospectively predict child conduct problems. Journal of Personality, 84(2), 207-216.

• Ritter, K., Dziobek, I., Preißler, S., Rüter, A., Vater, A., Fydrich, T., & Roepke, S. (2011). Lack of empathy in patients with narcissistic personality disorder. Psychiatry Research, 187(1-2), 241-247.

• Ronningstam, E. (2016). Identifying and understanding the narcissistic personality. Oxford University Press.

An Introduction to My Journey Through Narcissistic Abuse | Ep. 2 (October 2023)

• Campbell, D. G., Felker, B. L., Liu, C. F., Yano, E. M., Kirchner, J. E., Chan, D., & Rubenstein, L. V. (2007). Prevalence of depression-PTSD comorbidity: Implications for clinical practice guidelines and primary care-based interventions. Journal of General Internal Medicine, 22(6), 711-718.

• Fisher, J. (2017). Healing the fragmented selves of trauma survivors: Overcoming internal self-alienation. New York, NY: Routledge.

• Herman, J. L. (1992). Complex PTSD: A syndrome in survivors of prolonged and repeated trauma. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 5(3), 377-391.

• Kilpatrick, D. G., Resnick, H. S., Milanak, M. E., Miller, M. W., Keyes, K. M., & Friedman, M. J. (2013). National estimates of exposure to traumatic events and PTSD prevalence using DSM-IV and DSM-5 criteria. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 26(5), 537-547.

• Lanius, R. A., Vermetten, E., & Pain, C. (2010). The impact of early life trauma on health and disease: The hidden epidemic. Cambridge University Press.

• Van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The body keeps the score: Brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma. Penguin Books.

How 30 Years of Experience Shaped My Understanding of Narcissism | Ep. 1 (September 2023)

• American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed.). Arlington, VA: American Psychiatric Publishing.

• Campbell, W. K., & Foster, C. A. (2007). Narcissism and commitment in romantic relationships: An investment model analysis. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 33(1), 95–109.

• Grijalva, E., Newman, D. A., Tay, L., Donnellan, M. B., Harms, P. D., Robins, R. W., & Yan, T. (2015). Gender differences in narcissism: A meta-analytic review. Psychological Bulletin, 141(2), 261–310.

• Miller, J. D., Lynam, D. R., Hyatt, C. S., & Campbell, W. K. (2017). Controversies in narcissism. Annual Review of Clinical Psychology, 13, 291–315.

• Paulhus, D. L., & Williams, K. M. (2002). The dark triad of personality: Narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy in everyday life. Journal of Research in Personality, 36(6), 556-563.

• Ronningstam, E. (2016). Narcissistic personality disorder: Facing DSM-V. Psychiatric Annals, 46(3), 176–182.

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